18 S*x Positions Pretty Much Guaranteed to Help You Orgasm
Yes, passionate, energetic, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way sex might keep your love life feelin fresh. But if you want to figure out your body and what absolutely gives you an orgasm every time, starting smaller can yield big results.
To help you get there, here are 18 sex positions recommended by experts to make sure your orgasm is the main event.
1. The In and Out
To add more directed friction to woman-on top, try pulling out a few times so they’re completely outside of you and slide your lubed up vulva over the underside of their penis. Experiment with long up-and-down strokes over their shaft, short side-to-side motions, or rub the head of their penis around your clitoris to see what’s gonna do it for you. They’ll last longer and you will get more intense stimulation exactly where you want it. And when they’re inside you, keep it going. Candice Smith, a sex expert and cofounder of TheKinkKit.
2. The Lap of Luxury
Being on top has loads of benefits—according to sexpertL. M. “You have more control over the speed, angle, and intensity, so it makes it easier to keep it at a rhythm that’s really doing it for you. Your vulva and clitoris are also very accessible, and the vast majority of women find intercourse much more pleasurable if they are also stroking or being stroked in this area.” But for an upgrade on the classic, try sitting your partner down on a chair and climbing on top. There’s something super intimate about sitting on your partner’s lap and being able to be held during sex. And if you are a little shy about self-stimulation, you can always flip around and make the no-eye contact thing your friend. The best part is you can feel totally hands-free as your partner stimulates you, really putting you over the edge.
3. The Steam Room
Shower sex just feels special—there’s a sexy new couple energy to it and if there’s a detachable showerhead in there, it’ll be just as orgasmic as it is cinematic. According to sex therapist V.M. “Most people want to try it because they’ve seen a hot shower sex scene on TV or in a movie, but you have to keep in mind that there’s an entire crew making sure that scene looks effortlessly sexy.” For a feasible shower orgasm, direct the shower spray between your legs while your partner enters from behind. Use a silicone-based lube (water-based will rinse right off) and hold onto something sturdy—you’ll need it.
4. The Supercharged Spread
According to Carol Queen, staff sexologist at good vibrations, the clitoris and vulva contain nerve endings that are particularly responsive to the sensation of vibration, so if hand stimulation isn’t quite enough to get to you there, that trusty vibrator ought to do the trick. A vibe can also help with any performance anxiety—it’s harder to worry about whatever when you’ve got a turbo-charged sex machine between your legs (Or two, depending on your partner.) Your partner holds your ankles—pressing them close for a tighter-feeling fit and spreading them wide for an “OMG, you feel huge” effect.
5. The Eagle
Why is the classic oral pose so damn good? “It’s a relaxed position for the person receiving pleasure, allowing them to lie back and focus on the sensations,” say adult film performer J.Z. who knows of such things. “With feet grounded, they can tilt the pelvis or lift their legs to change things up. I recommend folding a pillow under the hips to reduce the angle required of the giver’s neck. It can also allow for eye-contact between partners.” Lee also recommend a sex wedge pillow, for better angling or switching up the position with giver kneeling on the floor by the bed, receiver lying with hips at the edge, feet over their partner’s shoulders.
6. Cowgirl Style
Sex therapist S. B. is all-in with woman-on-top, because you can stimulate your clitoris without losing momentum. “Rather than lying there wondering when they’re going to thrust in perfect time with your erotic needs, you can set the rhythm and take them in as deep or as shallow as you like. Or if you prefer, stay perfectly still (you can do it—you’re on top!) and tantalize both of you by squeezing and releasing your Kegel muscles,” says Block. “You can bend over, give them a kiss, and rub your chest against them or sit up and let them have a good look at your gorgeous self, maybe play with your boobs…or reach behind you to squeeze or spank your bottom. Really, the possibilities are endless.”
7. Pushin’ the Cushion
Get on your knees in front of the couch and drape your torso over the cushions in a sort of modified doggie where you’re kinda humping the couch as well. “The key here is to press your vulva against a throw pillow that, in turn, is pressed against a high-powered vibe against the couch. “Your partner should allow you to get consistent pressure and grinding against the vibrating pillow while they move inside you so you have the clit stimulation you need in order to orgasm. Don’t be shy about telling them exactly how to accomplish that. Also, maybe don’t use the nice throw pillow.”
8. The Sticky Scissor
“Lie perpendicular to each other with you on your back and them facing you on their side. One of your legs goes between theirs and the other is draped over their hips. This allows their top leg to be angled so it’s pressed against your vulva while they’re inside you,” says Borowicz. “While they’re slowly pumping, you can can grind up against their inner thigh to get the clit stimulation you need to come (feel free to use your hands to press their leg down against you and angle it just right…or alternatively just have them move their leg out of the way a bit and use your vibe).”
9. The Up and Over
Missionary position will never be the same again. “While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you’re folding in half,” says Solot. This move allows your partner better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration—a perk for both of you. But consider this a warm-up—you’re getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm. Once you feel like you’re getting into a groove, put your legs down and have them get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “They’re on top, but they lift their pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris,” says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then they rock against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone,” adds Brame.
10. The Down but Not Out
You’ve probably tried an all-fours pose before, and while doggie-style is inarguably hotter than hot, in order to make it extra orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. “Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so they can enter you,” suggests Solot. “Your partner can prop themselves up with their hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you.” Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as they move in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.
11. The Lusty Leg Wrap
With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like your cardio day at the gym than something designed to get you off. That’s why it’s important to have at least one relaxed orgasm-inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: “While you’re on your back, they should lie on their side, turned toward you,” explains Solot. “Swing both legs over their hips and thighs, making a bridge over them.” Then, just let them gently thrust into you. If it takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. “It’s not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out,” says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. “When you want to climax, it’s easy to touch yourself or they can use their top hand to stimulate you.”